Anyways, we are doing pretty good! I feel okay for being this close to having him. I get asked all the time if this is my first!! o_o HaHa, this makes me feel really good and confident! Thanks for all of you who lie through your teeth to make a very pregnant woman feel absolutely "amazing!" Let me tell you with the roller coaster of hormones I have lately, any and every compliment will be eaten right up!
I thought I'd post about the changes in our bodies and our lack of confidence that we have while pregnant, although I don't ever remember feeling like this before? I always thought I had more confidence while pregnant, but not this time around. I am constantly asking Nick how he feels towards me, but not because he doesn't make me feel loved but I guess just to have the reassurance that he is still attracted to me. I've heard other surrogates say their husbands get weirded out by them being pregnant, not with their child. So maybe that's where my dilemma comes in? I have this need to want my husband to look at me and think I am beautiful, for him to tell me I look good, honestly.. anything at this point would make my day. It is so different when you receive a compliment from your husband then from a complete stranger at the grocery store, though I'll take any compliment I can get these days! :) So, this post is for "My" husband as well as any other Father, Intended Father or Surrogates husband that may read my blog.. Compliment the women in your life!! I promise you, it will make her fall in love with you all over again!! Something as little as a glance at her with a grin -to actually complimenting her on her clothes, hair, etc.
10 Things You SHOULD Say To Pregnant Women
Before you put your foot in your mouth, take a read over some of these things that you should say to pregnant women. Not only will they be pleasantly surprised, but you may have just managed to make their day with a few simple words that they don't always hear. If ever.
10. That Pregnancy Glow Really Suits You
9. You Sure Make This Look Easy!
That doesn't mean that we can't give a little shout to the woman who is building a baby in her belly. You can say things like "Being pregnant is hard work, but you make this look easy." It will brighten her day and make her feel like superwoman.
Not only does it make her feel good about how she looks but it gives her props and helps her out with yet another confidence boost.
8. It Will All Be Worth It
Even though you know she knows this, you should remind her every once in a while. Reaffirm and reassure that even though the first nine months of her child's life, while in the womb, was difficult and crazy, the end result will be the happiest day of her life.
For surrogates it's a little different. But that doesn't mean we don't want to hear it will be worth it. :) I know the second this baby is born and they place him in his parents arms I will too have that instant gratification of reassurance that what I've just helped create, makes it worth it in the end.
7. Making A Baby Is Hard Work, Pamper Yourself
There are so many ways you can pamper your pregnant friend, relative, or partner. Some of those things are even free. Give her a nice back massage. Take her out to dinner. Buy her a nice spa treatment or manicure/pedicure day.
Make sure she knows that you acknowledge that she is doing hard work and show her how much you want her to feel comfortable and relaxed during the course of her 24/7 job as a baby making machine.
6. You Go Ahead
If you see a pregnant woman who might benefit from going before you in the grocery check out, why not let her go ahead. Open the door for her and make sure there's not something else you might be able to do for her.
No matter what the woman says, she is appreciative of the help, even if she is hesitant to ask for it herself.
5. Did You Change Your Hair?
Inside, she is beaming, she looks good and someone noticed. Say this comment and say it frequently. It will get a smile like you have never seen before, even if she waves you off with comments of folic acid and pregnancy making her hair different.
It doesn't matter, say it anyway. Rinse and repeat. It never gets old when someone tells you that on the days you feel the crappiest that you look like you did something to your hair. :)
4. I Can't Even Tell You're Pregnant From Behind
It doesn't matter if the pregnant woman you are dealing with IS in fact as big as a house, don't tell her that. Instead make her feel nice by making her turn around and show you from behind. Mention that she doesn't even look pregnant from behind. Not only does it compliment her growing curves in the rear, but it sure does boost the mood when someone essentially tells you that you look normal from the back.
Even if she is a surrogate. A little congratulations on doing a good deed for someone else goes a long way.
2. You Look Great!
Tell her she is looking great. Make the words count and be genuine about it. Let's face it, she probably hasn't shaved her legs in the last four months, (actually I am proud to say I finally did shave today!) but making a baby is hard work and she is doing a mighty fine job of it.
1. That Cake Looks Delicious!
More people are prone to telling you what to stick in your mouth and what not to eat when you are pregnant. Instead of being one of those people, why not just tell her it looks delicious. You know you want a bite of it, why not get real and actually let her know.
Besides, how do you know she didn't just eat a salad for lunch or a carrot stick as a snack. Don't make snap judgements, instead help her feel good about herself. Tell her it looks so TASTY.
She's making a baby, let her eat cake for goodness sakes!
Weight Gain: 20 lbs.
Cravings: Apples, Bananas, Grapes, Smoothies, Bell Peppers, Tomatoes, Onions, Squash, Zucchini (especially Zucchini!), Pasta :\, Ice Water, Pebble Ice and I found that Sprite or Soda Water helps with my heart burn.
Symptoms: I'm sure you've heard all this for the last couple posts. :) Backache, Pelvic Pain, Braxton Hicks, Leg Cramps, Shrek Feet and Exhaustion, lots and lots of exhaustion!
|34 Weeks! He is growing so much! I notice a difference daily. :)|
- He's recognizing and reacting to simple songs, voices and noise.
- He's also urinating about a pint a day.